47: How to Resuscitate Your Erotic Mind as a Mother - Interview with Lisa O.
In this episode of Yes, Please, Lisa is here to share the story of how she redefined her sexuality after becoming a mother and facing a waning sex drive. She restructured her mindset and resuscitated her pussy and her sexuality so that she would want to have sex and BE an erotic and sexual woman again. What started as a project to rekindle her sexual life, ended up as a personal discovery journey and a way to express herself while helping other women do the same.
Lisa is the creator of Please Pinch Me Hard, multilingual, mother of two, wife, and author of erotica that is full of empowering and unspoken truths. If you had told Lisa, having children would leave her with no sex drive and imminent divorce, she wouldn’t have believed you. If you had told her that writing a book with naughty stories would save her, she also wouldn’t have believed you. But never say never! Lisa completely restructured her lifestyle and redefined her sexuality. In the process, she began writing short, erotic stories. And now? It’s what makes her thrive and separates the woman from the mum.
Humans are sexual and we crave sex-iness.
The first step to embracing our sexual identity is to recognize that it is a normal and natural part of being human and that we all have sexual desires and needs. There is nothing wrong with wanting to explore them, however, it is no secret that our society has complicated our relationship with our bodies and with sex and sexuality. Too often, we are taught to be ashamed of our sexual desires and to keep them hidden away. This is especially true for women, who are expected to be demure. But it doesn’t have to be this way.
When it comes to pleasure and arousal, the brain is key, but it will also be key to maintaining desire in a long-term relationship. To create a heightened level of arousal, the brain needs to be in “sex mode.” One way to get the brain into this mode is through self-seduction. This can be done through activities such as shopping for lingerie, watching porn, and reading erotica.
Now add pregnancy and motherhood on top of that.
When couples become parents, it is easy to become overwhelmed with the demands of parenting, but the relationship is still important, it is the foundation of the family so communication and intimacy should be a priority. Intimacy does not always have to lead to sex. Intimacy can be a powerful tool for couples to connect and stay close and explore your body and needs in a safe environment.
Lastly, in this episode, you will learn why it is important to take the time to be selfish. To reconnect with your body, to explore what feels good, to pleasure yourself, and to focus on yourself, even as a mother!
In this episode:
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Reclaiming the sexual identity
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Rediscovering sexuality as a mother.
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Intimacy and connection with your partner
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Fueling your sex drive with erotica and other stimuli.
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How having time for yourself and pleasure will help you have partnered pleasure.
Let’s connect!
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Links and Resources
Lisa's website: https://pleasepinchmehard.com
Lisa's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pleasepinchmehard/
Get her book here: https://pleasepinchmehard.com/give-it-to-me/
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