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116: Q&A - fantasy, self-touch, and body signals

In this episode, I answer three honest and intimate questions from my community about mental arousal and fantasy, shame or disgust around self-touch, and burning or sensitivity at the vaginal entrance. We explore why the brain is essential for pleasure, where the “dirty” feeling around touching yourself comes from, and how to listen to your body when it communicates through sensation rather than symptoms.

In this episode:

  • Why mental arousal and fantasy are a natural and necessary part of pleasure

  • Letting go of judgment around needing erotic imagination to feel turned on

  • Where the “dirty” feeling around self-touch is learned and how to change it

  • Psychological, subconscious, and somatic roots of sexual shame

  • Burning or sensitivity at the vaginal entrance as tension or stored communication

  • How to gently explore sensation through presence, touch, and body awareness

 

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