122: From hot preggo life to cold postpartum: finding your way back to desire

In this Q&A episode, I answer a listener’s question about moving from a hot, connected sex life during pregnancy to feeling completely disconnected from desire in postpartum.

I talk about why this shift is so common after birth, and how much your body, identity, relationship, and nervous system are moving through in this season. Before trying to “get the sexy vibe back,” we need to start with sensuality, self-connection, support, and honoring what your body has been through.

This episode is about finding your way back to lust gently, honestly, and in a way that actually fits the woman and mother you are now.

In this episode:

• Why postpartum can feel so different sexually

• Reconnecting with sensuality before sex

• Honoring your body after birth

• Asking for the intimacy you actually want

• Rebuilding your erotic identity after becoming a mother

If you’re feeling disconnected from desire, this is your reminder that nothing is wrong with you. Your sexuality may simply be asking to return in a new way.

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